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Real or Imagined, What You Perceive To Be True Becomes Your Reality

I am deeply saddened by the news of a recent tragedy involving a teenage girl in high school who chose to end her life, and the rippling effects of shock and devastation felt by her family, friends, and peers. Adding insult to injury is the response from some of her peers who choose to judge and criticize her, expressing harsh opinions, instead of choosing to show empathy or compassion. As a mother of two teenage daughters, this tragic incident has prompted heartfelt discussion within our family.

Let us take a moment in quiet thought and reflection to send our prayers and sentiments to the family that has just lost a daughter, a sister, a granddaughter, a cousin, a friend, a best friend…

We all affect each other with our comments and criticisms. A little kindness and compassion can go a long way. We do not know the details or depth of others thoughts and feelings to the extent that one would consider ending their life.

What was this young girl’s perception of reality that she saw no better option than to end her life? How does her family and close friends view this situation?

What is your Perception of Reality? This has nothing to do with being right or wrong. It’s how you see your situation. Book Excerpt from Straight to the Heart of What Matters: “Your personal perception—founded on subconscious and conscious programming, and your belief system—serves to provide you with a baseline reference for how you see yourself, others, and circumstances, as well as how you interpret and interact with life’s events.”

Do you recognize where your viewpoints originate? Why are some people quick to judge others and their behaviors? How does it make you feel when you judge someone? How would you feel to have people judge you? Can you open yourself to appreciate a point of view that is different than yours?

How do you view your life today? Your state of mind matters. Stress, emotional distress, and depression are a few considerations that contribute to our outlook. As a society, we can assist and support each other. We must become more mindful and considerate during our interactions with one another. According to 2007 U.S. statistics, a person dies as a result of suicide every fifteen minutes. As for our youth, between the ages of 15-24, suicide is the third leading cause of death. Keep in mind, for every suicide, there are numerous attempts at suicide.

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Our emotional and spiritual health contributes to our physical health and our outlook on life. My recently published book, Straight to the Heart of What Matters, can help you to gain a new perspective on life and your life’s circumstances. In addition, I desire to support and assist you through my Straight to the Heart of What Matters(SM) workshops.  (click on workshops-seminars)



“Dose of Deborah” offers a spoonful of inspiration and insights to increase self-awareness, self-love, self-growth, leading to personal fulfillment…

It is my intention to provide you content that is thoughtful, educational, engaging, inspirational, and empowering. As you read the blog articles on this site, may you find support and encouragement; receive food for thought that can assist you in gaining a new perspective on your life experiences.

There is a great deal of pain today. I desire to help you tap into another way to look at your life experiences; find a way to appreciate your experiences. Your increased awareness and insight will contribute to your personal growth and have rippling effects on all of your relationships, especially the relationship you have with yourself. I feel that if you connect with me in any way or resonate with any of the articles I’ve written, you make available that space within you that says yes…yes to an opportunity and to the possibility of a deeper connection to yourself….to find healing, passion, and purpose in your life. I believe in possibilities, I believe in miracles, and I believe in YOU!

We affect each other’s lives. I appreciate the wonderful comments from my readers.


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Your Life is a Miracle-Your Abilities are Amazing!

Several mornings ago, I found myself tossing and turning to get comfortable. At some point, I began to have thoughts of my patient who just recently came into my care. Although half awake half asleep, I was acknowledging my ability to move and reposition at will. In a matter of a few seconds, my thoughts then turned to the life altering affects of my patient’s injuries that have him lying in bed without the ability to do such a seemingly simple function as turning to his side. I recalled the concern reflected in his eyes, “How did I get myself into this?” “Why did this happen?” What’s to come of my life?”

Recovery from a spinal cord injury is a process…moment by moment. The initial shock after an accident, the initial fear and uncertainty of survival, the subsequent fear and uncertainty of recovery are real and immediate. The life altering changes in functionality are BOLDLY evident. The body you once knew has drastically changed and is now unfamiliar.

It’s so important we take time to appreciate the abilities we have. The ability to breathe, think, interact, eat, drink, taste, smell, touch, feel, move, walk , talk, control our bowel and bladder…the ability to be independent, get up and go where we want to and when we want to, to drive, to travel, etc. are things we must be mindful of and take care of. Appreciate the moment. We must take time each day to express gratitude for all of our abilities and opportunities.

Every day is a gift, a blessing, and a present. Stay PRESENT!

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